survivalistdating com - Dating 4 years younger

Not that it was very different from the responses I got from men my age — they were just far less eager and often downright aloof.One guy I dated on and off I dubbed “Copperfield” (as in magician David Copperfield), as he'd disappear for weeks at a time between dates.The age gaps spanned anywhere from 10 to 14 years, with women in their late 40s and early 50s enjoying relationships and/or marriage with men in their late 20s or 30s. Couples in this situation had to address the fertility concern head-on, with some choosing to take the leap relatively quickly while others took a pass.

I guess you can say I’m in the throes of a major midlife crisis.

As Dolly Parton once famously quipped, “It takes a lot of money to look this cheap.” Because of all of this, I’m constantly called the “c-word” — that “c-word” being “cougar.” I do really hate that word.

Usually the guys were 4 or 5 years older, sometimes they were 8 or 10 years older (and I went on one date with a guy who was like, 18 years older), but they were ALWAYS older. I recently started dating a younger man – he’s four years younger than me – and honestly? Here’s why: Editor’s note: I’ve opened this post a jillion times to try to write it without sounding like “in defense of this one particular younger man I’m dating”.

I’m going to try to be objective here, but no promises.

Though men have been enjoying May-December romances forever, women haven’t been afforded the same freedom necessarily.

Culturally, the older woman/younger man dynamic is perceived as an oddity, or a fluke.

Here are the reasons you wave off the idea of dating young: (aimless, noncommittal, out just for sex). But it didn’t seem to fit my reasons for dating younger, nor is it an accurate or flattering explanation of why younger men are worth dating.

But that’s not a power position, and it does you no favors. Beware of wielding stereotypes; they’re cheap shortcuts masquerading as wisdom, and if you use them, prepare to be judged by them. You would only applaud someone if she succeeded in doing something impossible or crazy, or if she got away with something she shouldn’t have. The cougar image is cartoonish at best, derived either from a culture fearful of a sexually empowered woman, or from the woman herself, who claims cougardom as a way to boost her self esteem via sex with a man many years her junior.

Also I think I’m scared to publish this while we’re still dating for fear of jinxing the dang thing. He hasn’t been doing his own thing forever, so to speak, so there’s metaphorical room for me in his life.

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